God’s Call To Women: Thoughts Through The Ages

“Submission refers to a wife’s divine calling to honor and affirm her husband’s leadership and help carry it through according to her gifts. It is not an absolute surrender of her will. Rather, we speak of her disposition to yield to her husband’s guidance and her inclination to follow his leadership.”~Ligon Duncan

“Womanhood is a call. It is a vocation to which we respond under God, glad if it means the literal bearing of children, thankful as well for all that it means in a much wider sense, that in which every woman, married or single, fruitful or barren, may participate–the unconditional response exemplified for all time in Mary the virgin, and the willingness to enter into suffering, to receive, to carry, to give life, to nurture and to care for others.”~Elisabeth Elliot

“The career of motherhood and homemaking is beyond value and needs no justification. It’s importance is incalculable.”
~Katherine Short

“The alternative to submission is exploitation, not freedom, because there is no true freedom in anarchy. The purpose of submission is not to degrade women in marriage, nor to degrade men in society, but to bring to them their best prosperity and peace under God’s order. In a world of authority, the submission of the wife is not in isolation, nor in a vacuum. It is set in a context of submission by men to authority; in such a world, men teach the principles of authority to their sons and daughters and work to instill in them the responsibilities of authority and obedience. In such a world, inter-dependence and service prevail. In a world of moral anarchy, there is neither submission to authority nor service, which is a form of submission. A husband and father who uses his authority and his income wisely to further the welfare of the entire family is serving the welfare of all thereby. But in a world which denies submission and authority, every man serves himself only and seeks to exploit all others. Men exploit women, and women exploit men.”
~ R.J. Rushdoony

“They that borrow the fashions of the Egyptians may get their boils and their blotches. Certainly such as fear the Lord should go in no apparel but first, such as they are willing to die in; secondly, to appear before the Ancient of Days in; thirdly, to stand before the judgment seat in.”~Thomas Brooks

“Home is the true wife’s kingdom. There, first of all places, she must be strong and beautiful.”
~ J.R. Miller

“I have nowhere seen women occupying a loftier position [than the one they enjoy in the United States]; and if I were asked, now that I am drawing to the close of this work, in which I have spoken of so many important things done by the Americans, to what the singular prosperity and growing strength of that people ought mainly to be attributed, I should reply: to the superiority of their women.”
~Alexis de Toqueville (1833)

“Her personal habits are full of energy. . . .  Self-denial is here a main principle.  The virtuous woman goes before her servants in diligence, no less than in dignity, imposing nothing on them which she had not first bound upon herself, ruling her household most efficiently by the government of herself.”~Charles Bridges

“The influence of applied femininity is, by any measure, incredibly determinative. In every culture, in every age, the power is awesome. And dangerous. As with any significant reservoir of power it may be used for good or ill. Its impact may be constructive or destructive. Like a mighty river, it is a force that may turn the turbines and generate power that will light up a community, a home, and a man’s whole life. But undisciplined and unchecked, it may devastate, demoralize, and utterly destroy.
Some women have no clue how much actual power they hold, and those are the women who destroy their husbands by default. Other women are acutely aware of their power and make a conscious decision to become high controllers. But still other women, keenly aware of the power God has vested in their femininity, make a deliberate choice to use that power only for good.”~Stu Weber

“The modern challenge to motherhood is the eternal challenge” that of being a godly woman. The very phrase sounds strange in our ears. We never hear it now. We hear about every other type of women: beautiful women, smart women, sophisticated women, career women, talented women, divorced women. But so seldom do we hear of a godly woman–or of a godly man either, for that matter. I believe women come nearer to fulfilling their God-given function in the home than anywhere else. It is a much nobler thing to be a good wife, than to be Miss America. It is a greater achievement to establish a Christian home than it is to produce a second-rate novel filled with filth. It is a far, far better thing in the realms of morals to be old fashioned, than to be ultra-modern. The world has enough women who know how to be smart. It needs women who are willing to be simple. The world has enough women who know how to be brilliant. It needs some who will be brave. The world has enough women who are popular. It needs more who are pure. We need women, and men, too, who would rather be morally right than socially correct.”~  Peter Marshall

“Equality is not really a Christian ideal. It is, in the first place, very hard to get at what people mean when they speak of equality. Surely they can’t mean that men and women are like two halves on an hourglass or an orange…. Men and women are equal, we may say, in having been created by God. Both male and female are created in His image. They bear the divine stamp. They are equally called to obedience and responsibility, but there are differences in the responsibilities.… The statement, ‘All men are created equal’ is a political one, referring to a single quality for a single purpose. C.S. Lewis called this a ‘legal fiction,’ useful, necessary, but not by any means always desirable. Marriage is not a political arena. It is a union of two opposites. It is a confusion to speak of ‘separate but equal’ or ‘opposite but equal’ in referring to this unique union of two people who have become, because they were made different in order that they might thus become, one flesh.”
~Elisabeth Elliot

“God created women to be the ‘help meets’ for men (Genesis 2:18). Women are not only created to be the ‘help meets’ for man, they are created to be under the authority of a man (Ephesians 5:22, Colossians 3:18, 1 Timothy 2:12). Scripture is clear that fathers and husbands are to be the heads of their household (1 Corinthians 11:3) and that wives are to submit to their husbands (Ephesians 5:22). How does college prepare a young woman for any of those things?”~Crystal Paine

“[I]t would not be hard to show, did space permit, that this movement [women's suffrage] on the part of these women is as suicidal as it is mischievous. Its certain result will be the re-enslavement of women, not under the Scriptural bonds of marriage, but under the yoke of literal corporeal force. The woman who will calmly review the condition of her sex in other ages and countries will feel that her wisdom is to ‘let well enough alone…’. Under all other civilizations and all other religions than ours, woman has experienced this fate to the full; her condition has been that of a slave to the male-sometimes a petted slave, but yet a slave. In Christian and European society alone has she ever attained the place of man’s social equal and received the homage and honor due from magnanimity to her sex and her feebleness. And her enviable lot among us has resulted from two causes: the Christian religion and the legislation founded upon it by feudal chivalry. How insane then is it for her to spurn these two bulwarks of defense…? She is thus spurning the only protectors her sex has ever found, and provoking a contest in which she must inevitably be overwhelmed.”
~ Robert L. Dabney

Brothers, get serious about being a Husband and Father by Gene Long

Husbands, the chief purpose of your life is no longer for you to love God and glorify Him forever. Oh brothers it is so much deeper than that. Your chief purpose is to ensure that you and your household, your wife, your children, along with yourself, would love God and glorify Him forever. When your wife stands before the judgment seat of God she will answer for her sin. When your children stand before the throne they will answer for their sin. But when you, brother, stand before the judgment seat of God, you will answer for your sins, your wives sins, and your children’s sins. Do any of us even slightly fathom the responsibility that is upon us as husbands?

Scripture speaks nowhere of being one flesh with your children, nor with your neighbor or with God. You are pronounced to be one flesh with your wife. And you are commanded to lay down your life for your wife alone. This is your ultimate ministry.

What greater privilege could a man have? Would you dare go through your day without taking the time to study God’s Word and pray as a couple and family? Will you lazily sit watching American Idol while your children are left to find their own way? Anything in your life that displaces your role and duty to your family is an idol and it is sin. Football, hunting, cars, boats, television, politics. Do these take from the sanctification of your children and wife? What example are you setting for your sons and daughters?

Brothers, do you wake up in the morning to serve your family? To teach them, admonish them, encourage them? Do you lie down at night in prayer for the souls of your loved ones? Praying for wisdom and strength and diligence that you might be the man that God has called you to be. Think on these things. What can you do to make your home a place of sanctification?

*Perhaps you would bring your family together around the table for meals.
*Stay at the table after supper and have devotions together. Bathe your family in the Word of God. Write it on your doorposts.
*Cut the cable to the TV.
*Get you budget in order and give more to the Lord so that you may bring your wife home from work.
*Homeschool your children. Build a hedge around them as you train them to be soldiers in God’s army.
*Commit your family to gather weekly with the saints in corporate assembly and do not allow excuse.
*Honor the Lord’s Day in your home.

Deeply contemplate your commission as head of your home and cry out to God for help. Quit you like Men! Lead, provide and protect your family with authority from God, but let that authority be exercised with gentleness, grace and love.

Procreate! God tells us to be fruitful and multiply and proclaims the man blessed who has his quiver full. Give your wife children for which she can nurture and care. Pursue zealously the opportunity to create God honoring men and women from your home.

Brothers, get serious about being a husband and father. Nothing… NOTHING, in life outweighs your call to lead your home in the knowledge and admonition of the Lord. May your motto be,
“As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord!”

One Man’s Convictions Regarding Modesty by Gene Long

1- Men get more out of friendly hugs from women than women realize, and it isn’t good.

2- Modesty includes smoothing curves, and concealing crevices.

3- Revealed undergarment straps are enticing to men.

4- Men think very differently than you. Don’t assume you know our capabilities or lack thereof.

5- If you wouldn’t dream of wearing it on the street, don’t wear it at the pool.

6- Men will rightly be held accountable for lust. But women will be held accountable for careless enticement.

One Families Convictions on Why a Mother should be a Keeper At Home by Gene Long

One Families Convictions on Why a Mother should be a Keeper At Home.

1. Throughout Scripture we find an example of the wife being a submissive helpmate to her husband and a keeper, or worker, at home.

2. God’s Word is clear that the husband is the head of the wife. Placing a boss or manager in place of that headship for 8 hours a day is reckless, irresponsible and unbiblical.

3. Men are pigs. The majority of unfaithfulness in marriage develops in the work place. Why would we expose ourselves to that danger?

4. Men are commissioned by God to support their families. It is the duty of the husband to leave the home and provide the primary income for the household.

5. Industrious and sincere men are without a job because of the multitude of positions that are filled by women, many who work apart from absolute necessity.

6. Our children are a gift from God and we have been commissioned to raise them in the fulltime nurture and admonition of the Lord. This cannot be rightly accomplished with an absentee Mom.

7. State schools are an abomination to Biblical reason and standard and we as parents are called exclusively to educate our children. Home schooling is a full time effort.

8. A wife is poorly able to be a helpmate to her husband when she has spent the best of her energy assisting other men throughout the day.

9. We greatly value a clean and orderly home and healthy home cooked meals.

10. Our home is never empty. Throughout the day there is life, happiness, fellowship and Christian love within its walls. We rejoice in that.

By The Way Of The Cross

All of our life must be grounded in Scripture. What do we think about? How do we dress? What do we watch? How are we entertained? How do we spend our time? How do we relate to others? This and so much more, must be held up and examined in light of God’s Word.

There is no room for “I know…but…” or “It’s just that…” in the life of a Christian. We cannot justify our sin when we stand before the cross. God’s Word alone is to be our guide. Not our emotions. Not what others say. Not what some preacher or teacher who is not ground in the Word has said. God alone. God alone. God alone…He is all that matters. He alone is everything. We ought to know that but, so often, we don’t.

Too many preachers, too many who profess themselves to be teachers, too many husbands have failed to bury themselves in the Word of God so that they might lead their people, their families. This is sin.

A husband must guide his wife and his children to God. He does that by way of the cross. A pastor, a teacher, must guide those under them, those listening to them, to the cross. It is there that we see our great sin and God’s great grace.

Without a full understanding of our sin, we will never understand God’s love. He sacrificed His Son for us. Because we are so vile, we would have had no hope otherwise. Outside of the cross there is no hope.

Why then has the message of the cross been reduced and replaced? It is because we have put ourselves front and center. It isn’t Christ that many professing Christians are worshipping. It is themselves.

We must get back to the cross and see ourselves for what we are. We must see our sin in light of His glorious holiness. He has called us to holiness. We are content with the gutter.

It is time for a change. When we come to the place where we see every single sin (even the “little” ones or the culturally acceptable ones) as an affront to our holy God, we will begin to grow in holiness, godliness and righteousness. Then and only then will we impact our families, our churches and our culture.

The place to begin is the only safe place there is: go to the cross and stay by it. See yourself as a sinner and unworthy; see Christ as perfect and completely worthy.

Many have long been misled by those who claim to be guiding them in the study of the Word of God. These teachers will be held accountable for their failures. Those who know, who see the problem, must repent and set things right. The time is now. The place to start is the cross.

 

The Modern Modesty Question

1 Timothy 2: 9, 10,  “likewise also that women should adorn themselves in respectable apparel, with modesty and self-control, not with braided hair and gold or pearls or costly attire,  but with what is proper for women who profess godliness—with good works.” 

Luke 6: 46, “And why call ye me, Lord, Lord, and do not the things which I say?”

John 14: 15, “If ye love me, keep my commandments.”

Modesty has fallen out of style because the church has married the world. Being modest in our lives and in our clothing is a commandment. Dare we tell God that we love Him if we aren’t willing to obey Him in all things, including in the way we dress? We are God’s people, the bride of Christ. We are to be holy–that is, set apart unto God. Let’s live like it.

Ladies, men are vision driven. We have a responsibility to help our brothers to live a holy life. We must not cause them to stumble by our words, by our actions, by our deeds or by our clothing.

I’ve heard young women say that if they were wearing a bikini and a guy lusted after them, it was his problem and his alone. These young ladies suggested that guys should simply avert their eyes when confronted with their near-nakedness. Yes, men have to take responsibility for their actions and if they give into lust, God holds them accountable. However, if you as a woman have dressed in such a way as to cause a man to lust, God will hold you accountable, also. Luke 17: 1, 2 says, “Then he said unto the disciples, It is impossible but that offences will come: but woe unto him, through whom they come! It were better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and he cast into the sea, than he should offend one of these little ones.” God takes our responsibilities as His children seriously. We ought to, also. As Christian women, we have got to realize what our immodesty does to guys:  we can cause our brothers in Christ to stumble; by doing so, we  mar our witness and blaspheme God’s holy name.

I’ve seen my sons have to repeatedly advert their eyes while standing among the ladies at church. This ought not to be. Women have a responsibility to men. These men who might struggle when confronted with your improper dress, they are your brothers in Christ. God will not take it lightly if you cause them to sin. There are many, many men out there like my sons who want to go to church and be free from things that will tempt them so that they can be free to simply worship the Lord. Help them.

We do not belong to ourselves, we belong to God. It is God alone that we must please. I Corinthians 6: 20 says, “For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s.” Everything about our lives should glorify our Savior. A woman’s clothes ought to frame her face and not her body. Ladies, our clothing should show that we are women of God rather than suggest that we are on display for men to enjoy. It is a sin for your clothing to shout, “Look at me!”.

Immodesty is a sin. Men are looking at you and they are undressing you with their eyes. Men are feasting on you with their eyes. They are sinning because of you. You are partakers in their sin because you are setting them up for it. God will hold you responsible. If you dress in such a way that men will lust after you–it is your fault and your problem when they lust. If your clothes show off your belly, your hips, your breasts (by clinging to them or displaying them), it doesn’t shout, “I’m a Christian. I’m a godly woman.” It shouts, “I’m on display. Look at me! Enjoy what you see!”

I know this sounds harsh, ladies, but someone has got to say it. I speak out because I love you. I care for your souls. I care what you are doing to the holy name of God. I care that men can’t come to worship their Lord without fearing that their sisters in Christ will dress in such a way that they have to avert their eyes. I care that the witness that you are giving to the lost says, “My God doesn’t have any standards. Just come to Him and you can do what you want.” God has standards so high that, were it not for the blood of Christ and the grace of God none of us would be able to stand before Him. Don’t abuse Him. Don’t prostitute yourselves with the world. Don’t sin.

Please think about this: what kind of example do you want to be? If you desire to be known as a woman of God then don’t dress like a harlot. Think about your daughters. What kind of example are you being to them? And, what are you allowing them to wear? Are men, young and old, undressing them with their eyes? Does that not bother you? Does it not break your heart that men are stumbling because of what you allow your daughters to wear?

It’s not too late to change. I beg you, go through your closet and drawers. Get rid of anything that is sheer, tight, revealing, cut too low or cut too high. Don’t give them away so as to cause someone else to stumble, throw them away.

Modesty begins in the heart. A modest woman will exhibit qualities such as gentleness and humility (Colossians 3: 12). She will not strive to be “front and center” and gather attention for herself. Her clothing, like everything about her, will point to God.