Modesty: Entering The Fray

Each one of us has an incalculable impact on the lives of others. What we say or fail to say, what we do or fail to do, what our lives stand for or what we fail to stand up for, daily we are modeling our convictions for all to see. Daily we prove our devotion to God by our choices: little devotion shows itself in excuses, much devotion shows itself in a life of death to all but Him.

“Why do you always harp on modesty?” is a question I’ve been asked more than once. It’s the wrong question to ask so I won’t take the time to answer it. A more proper question would be, “Are you, by your daily choices, honoring God in all that you do?”

Am I? Are you?

Since we are admonished in Scripture to do all that we do as unto God, each of us must daily be asking ourselves, “Can those around me, those whose lives are in some way touched by mine, tell that I am living for Christ alone? Or, does my life, my choices, give them reason to believe it is my glory that I am seeking rather than His?”

So, in talking about teaching modesty, we must get the emphasis off of me. The question should never be “Why does she talk so much about modesty?” for that is focusing your attention on me (where it doesn’t belong) rather than on God (where it does). Instead, let’s ask:

“Is modesty mandated in Scripture?”

“Does my theology show itself in my choice of clothing?”

“Does how I adorn myself speak of how I honor and value Christ?”

“Is provoking men to lust, in fact, a sin?”

If these questions can be answered “Yes” then modesty is important and we must all concern ourselves with it. For many decades Christians have sat back and contented ourselves with fussing at each other, completely oblivious to the changes taking place right in our midst. The devil moved in and took over and we never even noticed. He brought many changes with him and we embraced them…because, after all, God didn’t really say…,did He?

That’s the same lie the devil has been propagating since the beginning of time but we are too blind, too deaf and too biblically illiterate to know it.

Be sure of this: the devil is on the side of immodesty; he’s all for it maintaining its hold in the church. That should tell us something about where we ought to stand on this issue, don’t you think?

The immodesty of the younger generations is decried by many yet how many are willing to walk into the fray and do something about it? Where are those who are willing to be laughed at or to be accused of legalism in order to address it? Are you? Am I? There is a desperate need in the church today for godly men and women to be willing to speak the truth about this issue in love. Most aren’t. What we fail to understand is this: by failing to speak about immodesty, by pretending it isn’t an important issue (or that we are somehow infringing on other’s rights by addressing it), we are speaking very loudly about it. Very loudly, indeed, and our silence is heard in hell.

If we are not actively teaching that immodesty is sin, if we are looking the other way as girls and ladies who profess to know Christ come to church dressed in tight or tiny clothes, if we pretend we don’t notice when they go out in public dressed in clothing that is nothing less than an advertisement for sex (except to wag our tongues at each other in judgment against them) then we are endorsing their sin. Worse, when we fail to stand for truth, we ourselves are sinning against a holy God.

The obligation to speak truth lies with each one of us. We’ve been silent far too long. We must teach modesty because the issue of modesty is important to God. This isn’t an easy issue to address; if you take a stand for modesty some folks won’t like you. Some already don’t like me for taking such a stand but that’s okay; it’s God Whom I’m seeking to honor, not a person. I’m walking into the fray and I invite you to go with me. We might get singed but since many of Jesus’ followers have been burned at the stake, I’d say that’s a small price to pay. At any rate, my Lord died for me and anything, anything at all, that I can do to obey HIm, to show forth His utter worthiness, to give Him the glory He so greatly deserves, is worth it. I pray that many others feel the same.

To God alone be the glory.

 

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Keep Your Clothes On

Spring is here and Summer isn’t far behind. As coolish days give rise to hot ones women will once again start shedding their clothes in the name of freedom. I guess that I ought to be used to this by now but it still bothers me. I don’t want to see the undressed bodies of girls I don’t even know and I sure don’t want my sons seeing them.

Whatever happened to decency? To propriety? To modesty?

Where is our sense of shame? Our understanding that not all needs to be put on public display?

I know the answers, of course. I’ve studied our nations fall into immodesty and intellectually I comprehend it. Spiritually, however, I don’t. How is it that women who go to church, who profess Christ, can feel comfortable flaunting their nearly naked bodies in public (and sometimes, to some degree, in worship service) and have no shame?

Is it not embarrassing for a young lady to shed her clothing and stand nearly naked in public in a string bikini? If she went to a doctor and was asked to undress down to her underwear and not cover up with a sheet she would be incensed and, yet, this same girl can strip down even further and, because she is “covered’ by two tiny pieces of cloth that she calls a swimsuit (rather than two somewhat larger pieces of cloth that used to be referred to as unmentionables) she is alright about her nakedness.

Or this same girl (or a different one…there are lots of them who do this after all) can put on tiny, tiny shorts that come up to “here” on the legs and down to “there” at the waist and along with it a minuscule blouse that doesn’t quite cover “there” at the bottom and is cut down to show at least part of you-know-what at the top and head off shopping and she’s comfortable with the fact that everyone who sees her sees nearly all of her. She’s gets angry though if some guy that she doesn’t know starts leering at her or makes undue suggestions.

Let’s get real, girls: you’ve undressed for all to see, you’ve shown guys you don’t know areas of your body that ought to remain private (and what you haven’t shown, he can clearly make out due to the sheerness or tightness of what clothes you left on your body) and now you’re gonna get mad because some guy is going to look? Right. Yeah. That makes a LOT of sense.

Come on now you’re not that unwise…are you?

If you are, or if you are simply uninformed, let me fill you in: ladies, you need to realize that men are visual and that they are stimulated by sight. Specifically, girls, men are stimulated by the sight of a woman’s body. If you give them part of the picture by wearing something cut down to “there”, or cut up to “here” or very tight or sheer or hardly there at all, they’re going to complete the picture in their minds.

Do you really want men undressing you with their eyes? Do you want them lusting after you? Perhaps doing things with you (or to you) in their minds (even if it is “only” in their minds)? Do you want the picture of you half-naked (or more) lingering in their thoughts for days, or weeks, after they saw you on display?

I know the argument: men ought to be able to control themselves. You ought to be able to wear anything at all and men ought not to lust after you and you’re right. You’re absolutely right. You ought to be safe from prying eyes and from prying minds…no matter what. Men ought to control themselves…no matter what. But no matter what, it ain’t gonna happen. No matter what, there are some guys who are going to see you and they’re going to lust after you. You’re putting fuel on the fire and the fire is just getting hotter and hotter.

The truth is this: It is sin to put your body on display. God said it, I didn’t. When you do so, you are setting men up so that they lust after you (yes, you are). When you provoke a man to lust, girls, you’ve sinned and so has the man. The lost man now stands more condemned before God, the Christian man who succumbs now feels shame at his lust. By your immodesty, you might cause a man to fall back into a sin he’s struggled with (such as pornography). You might cause him to look at the body of his wife who has borne him many children and compare it to you who has borne none and judge her unfavorably. Many men will struggle with pictures of you coming to their minds for days or even weeks after they initially see you nearly undressed.

And, you, my dear, will stand guilty before a holy God for your part in their sin.

Oh, yes, guilty you are…even if you don’t want to believe it.

Ladies, we owe it to our brothers in Christ to make it easier on them. We owe it to the lost men to show them fruits of true Christianity.We owe it to our younger sisters to be an example of a faithful Christian maiden (or, depending on your age, a faithful Christian woman). Most importantly, we owe it to our Lord to obey Him.

If you’re one of the girls who has sinned this way, I ask you: please don’t do it this Summer. Enjoy yourself, yes; wear pretty clothes, absolutely. But please wear clothes that cover you. For the sake of your brothers in Christ, for the sake of the young Christian man who is just coming to terms with his manhood (and is trying to remain pure in thought for his future lady), for the sake of the lost, for the sake of the girls whose future husbands you just might be causing to sin, for the sake of my sons and for your sake, dear one, please keep your clothes on. We don’t need to see all of what you’ve got to display.

 

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Modest Clothing Links

It is almost impossible to find modest clothing. With that in mind, I searched for, and found, these sites. Some offer patterns and fabric,some aprons, some ready-made clothing, some are shops that will sew for you; scattered among these are shops that offer modest formal wear and wedding gowns. As far as I know the links all work but if you find one that doesn’t, please let me know. Also if you find a shop on-line that offers modest clothing, patterns or one that will sew for you, please let me know so I can consider including it here.


All Things Modest HTTP://WWW.ALLTHINGSMODEST.COM/

Amelia’s Aprons HTTP://AMELIASAPRONS.COM/

Baker Lane HTTP://WWW.BAKERLANE.COM/

Bellissima! Modesty Boutique  HTTP://MODESTYBOUTIQUEONLINE.COM/

Biblical Garden Clothing Collection HTTP://WWW.BIBLICALGARDEN.COM/

Blessed Designs HTTP://WWW.BLESSEDDESIGNS.NET/STORE/

Butter and Honey HTTP://WWW.BUTTERANDHONEY.COM/

Candle on the Hill HTTP://WWW.CANDLEONTHEHILL.NET/STORE/CATALOG.PHP?CATEGORY=10

Common Sense Designs Patterns HTTP://WWW.COMMONSENSEPATTERNS.COM/

Cozy Collections HTTP://WWW.COZYCOLLECTIONSINC.COM/

DCM Apparel~Where Fashion Meets Modesty HTTP://WWW.DCMAPPAREL.COM/

Dvora Fashions HTTP://WWW.DEVORAFASHIONS.COM/

4 Modesty HTTP://WWW.FORMODESTY.COM/

FREE Period Patterns HTTP://WWW.TUDORLINKS.COM/TREASURY/FREEPATTERNS/

Gehmans Country Fabrics & More HTTP://WWW.GEHMANSCOUNTRYFABRICS.COM/CGI-BIN/COMMERCE.CGI?DISPLAY=HOME

Grandma’s House HTTP://WWW.GRANDMASHOUSE.WS/

Handmaid of the Lord HTTP://UTMOST-WAY.COM/LHM/

Hannah Lise HTTP://WWW.HANNAHLISE.COM/

Harper House HTTP://WWW.LONGAGO.COM/ Offers vintage sewing patterns for the costumer, the re-enactor and the hopeless romantic~

Homestead Specialties Pattern Company HTTP://WWW.HOMESTEADSPECIALTIES.COM/

Jumpinbloomers.com HTTP://JUMPINBLOOMERS.COM/ (includes modest clothing for boys)

Kate’s Camisoles  HTTP://WWW.KATESCAMISOLES.COM/

Katie’s Mercantile HTTP://WWW.KATIESMERCANTILE.COM/

Lilies of the Field: Modest and Feminine Apparel HTTP://LILIESAPPAREL.COM/

Macabi Skirt HTTP://MACABISKIRT.COM/ the original adventure travel skirt

Made With Love HTTP://MADEWITHTLC.COM/

Mama’s Dress Shoppe (for expectant mamas)  HTTP://WWW.SEAMSLIKEYESTERDAY.US/

Mennonite Maidens HTTP://MENNONITEMAIDEN.COM/

ModestClothing HTTP://WWW.MODESTCLOTHING.COM/

Modest Clothing by Eshet Chayil HTTP://WWW.MODESTCLOTHINGPA.COM/

Modest Clothing Distributors HTTP://WWW.MODESTCLOTHINGDISTRIBUTORS.COM/

Modest Handmaidens Mercantile (offers some ready-made plus patterns and offers books in the spirit of Titus 2) HTTP://WWW.MODESTHANDMAIDENS.COM/

Modest Seamstress at a Modest Price HTTP://WWW.ANGELFIRE.COM/MO3/SEAMSTRESS/INDEX.HTML

Modesty.com HTTP://WWW.4MODESTY.COM/STORE/

My Culottes.com HTTP://WWW.MYCULOTTES.COM/

New Creation Women’s Apparel HTTP://WWW.NEWCREATIONAPPAREL.COM/

The Paisley Pincushion HTTP://WWW.PAISLEYPINCUSHION.COM/

Plainly Dressed HTTP://WWW.PLAINLYDRESSED.COM/INDEX.HTML

Phyllis Jean HTTP://WWW.PHYLLISJEAN.NET/

Practically Pretty by Design HTTP://PRACTICALLYPRETTY.BLOGSPOT.COM/

Ricci (includes plus sizes) HTTP://RICCIAPPAREL.COM/

Ringger Clothing HTTP://PAGES.PRODIGY.NET/DGRINGGER/ALLABOUTRINGGERCLOTHING.HTML

Seams Like Yesterday HTTP://WWW.SEAMSLIKEYESTERDAY.US/

Sew Fun Patterns.com HTTP://WWW.SEWFUNPATTERNS.COM/

Sew Modest HTTP://WWW.SEWMODEST.ORG/

Sewing at AllCrafts.net HTTP://WWW.ALLCRAFTS.NET/SEWING.HTM

Sewing Modest Clothing HTTP://WWW.SEWMODESTCLOTHING.COM/

Simply Graceful HTTP://WWW.SIMPLYGRACEFUL.COM/INDEX.HTML

Simply Modest HTTP://WWW.SIMPLYMODEST.COM/

Strasburg Children HTTP://WWW.STRASBURGCHILDREN.COM/

The Keeping Home Retail Store HTTP://WWW.KEEPING-HOME.COM/STORE/

The King’s Daughters HTTP://WWW.THEKINGSDAUGHTERS.COM/

The Scarlet Thread HTTP://WWW.TAYLORSSCARLETTHREAD.COM/

The Vermont Country Store HTTP://WWW.VERMONTCOUNTRYSTORE.COM/SHOP

The Wooden Soldier HTTP://WOODENSOLDIER.COM/

Tinuviel Designs Custom Clothing HTTP://WWW.LUTHIENTINUVIEL.COM/CUSTOM_MODEST_CLOTHING.HTM

Tznius HTTP://WWW.TZNIUS.COM/ modest clothing and head coverings

Vessels of Mercy HTTP://WWW.FINITESITE.COM/VESSELSOFMERCY/NEWDRESSSHOP.HTML

Works Of The Heart HTTP://WORKSOFTHEHEART.COM/

Modesty: The Forgotten Virtue

“In females, modesty has the like character as in males; but the word is used also as synonymous with chastity, or purity of manners. In this sense, modesty results from purity of mind, or from the fear of disgrace and ignominy fortified by education and principle. Unaffected modesty is the sweetest charm of female excellence, the richest gem in the diadem of their honor.”~~Noah Webster

“This struggle between concealment and display, fabric and skin, modesty and nakedness is a continuing story of how American society–including many Christians–has shed is clothes in public.”~~Jeff Pollard

“Modesty is the citadel of beauty and virtue.”~~Demades

“We can therefore walk into most churches on any given Sunday and behold a parade of young women pass by in tight tee-shirts, low-slung jeans, form-fitting skirts and other curve- and flesh-revealing styles. Church youth groups participate in mixed-sex pool parties without a second thought, everyone coming in their skivvies and no one batting an eyelash. We have become callused to public nudity, even in the church.”~~Mrs. M. L. Chancey

“Unless we have the courage to fight for a revival of wholesome reserve between man and man, we shall perish in an anarchy of human values….”~~Dietrich Bonhoeffer

“It seems to be the fashion nowadays for a girl to behave as much like a man as possible. Well, I won’t! I’ll make the best of being a girl and be as nice a specimen as I can: sweet and modest, a dear, dainty thing with clothes smelling all sweet and violety, a soft voice, and pretty, womanly ways. Since I’m a girl, I prefer to be a real one!”~~Mrs. George de Horne Vaizey

“Our culture is so saturated with immodesty that we have become desensitized to it in many ways. What was once considered pornography is now brazenly displayed on the magazine covers that assault our eyes at the grocery checkout.”~~Mrs. M. L. Chancey

“Modesty means propriety. It means avoiding clothes and adornment that are extravagant or sexually enticing. Modesty is humility expressed in dress. It’s a desire to serve others, particularly men, by not promoting or provoking sensuality.”~~C.J. Mahaney

“First of all, go through your closets and drawers and pull out all of the clothing that obviously has to go-and get rid of it! Next, get in front of a full-length mirror, and try on the things that are questionable. Look at yourself from all angles using a hand-held mirror. Look at yourself close up and from far away and see what you ‘really look like’ in the clothes you have been wearing. View yourself objectively, as if you were looking at someone else—and note what your first impressions are of ‘this person.’ Check for fit and transparency and get rid of anything that doesn’t pass the test—this is no time to be sentimental! Finally, each day before you leave the house, do the ‘mirror check’ on anything that hasn’t previously been checked or if you have gained weight since last taking a look. You will be surprised to find that some of the things you were sure about won’t pass the test. This will help you weed out your wardrobe as you go. Some of you may be afraid that if you do this, you’ll end up with nothing left to wear! But just remember that the most important thing is to be obedient to God, even if it means having a very limited wardrobe. Besides, when you are all done with this project, you will become a much more careful shopper and end up being a better steward over God’s money than you ever were before!”~~Melody Green

 

 

 

 

Godly Womanhood: Those Who Care

Sisters, if we are to be godly women, we must honor God in all that we do. Our attitudes, our actions, our words, our clothing must be modest. Immodest clothing never adorns a body in which dwells a modest heart; the clothing is simply an outward indicator of who we are on the inside. We have long been asleep and wolves have crept in and destroyed our churches; most are man-centered in their teaching and focus. God’s Word is either outright dishonored or His truth is seen as a pathway to success and fulfillment. It is in this morass that immodesty has become the norm. This must change. There are those who know, those who love God and His Word, those who care about truth; if you are numbered among these, please pray for God to guide you, break you, mold you, teach you so that you might be used by Him to stand for His truth. Help the younger, the more immature, sisters to know the Way in which they must walk if they are to honor God in all.

Meanwhile, here are some questions to ponder:

Is God a part of your life or is He your life?

Do you know His Word? Is His Word important enough to you to study, meditate upon, memorize, obey?

Do you often meet with Him in prayer? Are your prayers more focused on His glory or your needs?

Do you seek to honor God in thought, in word, in deed, in attitude?

Do you seek to bring honor to God or to yourself by your choice of clothing?

Do you dress to bring attention to your body (a sin) or to enhance your femininity (not a sin)?

Does your clothing draw attention to your face (good) or to your body (bad)?

Does the way you dress enhance your femininity?

By the way you dress, are you showing awareness that men are visual and are stimulated by the feminine form? Do you care?

Do you dress in a way that helps, rather than hinders, your brothers in Christ?

Are lost men led by your choice of clothing to lust for you? Or, do they see you as different and wonder what the difference is?

Are you teaching your daughters to not only dress modest but to be modest?

Can you and your daughters attend church without causing men to sin when they look at you?

Are you reaching out to your Christian sisters to help and to guide them in their understanding of modesty?

Does your clothing make you look like every other woman out there? Or, does it say to the world that you are set-apart unto God?

Do you equate modesty with frumpiness? Or, do you understand that one can dress modest and still look nice?

Are you honoring the men in your family by your clothing choices?

If you are a single woman, are you following the leading of your parents to determine what is modest?

If you are married, do you seek to honor your husband through your choice of clothing?

Being modest isn’t about being legalistic. Legalism is a sin. So is immodesty. Being modest is about loving God enough to take His Word seriously. Scripture gives us guidelines about dressing modestly. If we truly love God we will heed His instructions. If you don’t know what He says, study it. Get out a concordance or go on-line and look up modest, nakedness, chastity and such. Meanwhile, if you don’t know, study and pray until you do and then, teach. If you do know, study and pray and teach. Many women today have had no one to teach them what God desires in this matter. Maybe you are one whom He will be pleased to use to teach them.