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My new book on domestic abuse is on sale

Do you ever wonder if you might be a victim of domestic abuse? My new Kindle book, Am I Being Abused? A Woman’s Guide to Domestic Abuse, can help you to answer that question. It’s on sale through Sunday. If you get a copy and like it, please leave a review so others will know that it’s worth reading. Thanks!

 

 

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Husband lost his job

Psalms 86: 7, In the day of my trouble I call upon you, for you answer me. 

This morning my husband was fired. It didn’t really come as a surprise as they’ve been threatening to fire him for months, but it’s certainly not welcome news. We’re already under threat of eviction due to being behind on the rent. Now, this.

If you know any of our story, you know that my husband has been abusive towards us. We’ve not in physical danger from him (though he has been physically abusive before), but his verbal, emotional, spiritual, and financial abuse is relentless.  This is not the first time he’s been fired. During our marriage, he’s been fired five or six times, and he was fired other times before I met him. His’ health isn’t good, neither is his emotional state, and I’m honestly not sure what this will do to him.

God is certainly sovereign and I trust Him. He has been and certainly will continue to provide for our needs. Even in the darkest of nights, He’s been there. Never have my children and I failed to know He was fighting our battles.  Our trust in Him is not only unshakable but has increased throughout our many trials.

Some friends of mine had suggested a few days ago that I start a GoFundMe to help raise money for the landlord, and I did. That has helped some. We set the goal for $3,000.00 and have raised a little over a thousand. My daughter, on her own, had started one, trying to raise money to leave my husband due to his abuse. Hers simply never took off. I really don’t know how things are going to go now, or even what our options might be, considering. I’m not asking anyone for help but if you could pray for us, I would appreciate it.

My husband is head over heels in debt and that makes this that much harder. He filed bankruptcy just a year or so ago (for the third time) and his credit is shot. Unwisely, he had taken out two title loans, multiple payday loans, and various loans from family and friends.  He’s behind on not only the rent but also on the utilities and other bills. Our landlord wants us out and has filed eviction papers. And now my husband has lost his job. God alone can help us.

Thank you all, and God bless.

To God be the glory, now and forever, in this as in all things.

Anna

Posted in abuse, Celebrations, Christianity, domestic abuse

Those God puts in our path

The Lord graciously put her in my path. An abused woman, a needy mom, a mom without hope for Christmas for her three children. She crossed my path and I couldn’t get her out of my mind.

I wrote recently of not being able to do much for my own children for Christmas. Because of the abuse my children and I have lived through, Christmas is always hard. There’s never enough on normal days, let alone on special ones. I guess that’s why I can relate. Why her story spoke to me.

This sweet mother of three has had to fight battles most of us never dream of having to fight. After a decade of extreme physical abuse, she said enough and fled. Several states away, she’s now faced with the daunting task of starting over with nothing. And her mother’s heart, just like all true mother’s hearts, cries out for a bit of happiness for her children.

No matter how bad off any of us might be, there’s always someone who, at least at this moment, is suffering more. There’s always someone worse off than we are. I wrote in my last post that I used to be one who gave but now we were among those who could be counted as needy. I can’t give her money as I have none but I can do something. I’m going through my closets and drawers. My children are gathering their gently used clothes, toys, and books. We’re looking through our games. My daughter is putting her creativity to use and is making sugar scrub for the mom and teenaged daughter and stuffed animals for the two  youngest. We’re also reaching out to others for things that they might share.

There’s always someone, somewhere, who needs our help. When you’re as needy as this mom is, even five dollars, or an already loved doll for her little one, makes a difference. I’ve been down the road of absolute destitution and it hurts. And it’s far worse when you have children. Or when it’s Christmas. So look around today. See if there’s someone who God has put in your path who needs your help. Then go through your closets and drawers. Dig through your clothes, your linens, and those no longer loved books and toys. Or bake some cookies and share those. I’ve been in the situation where I had to pray that God would send me some sheets for our beds and food for our supper. Discount nothing that might be in your hand. Someone, somewhere, needs it. Pray that God puts them in your path just as He put this sweet mom in mine.

The greatest gift that God ever gave us was His Son. This Christmas, lets honor that greatest of all gifts by being givers ourselves to those who need it most. You, like me, might not have money to share but surely there’s something that you have that somebody would love to receive. Something that would make a great difference to someone who has nothing. Pray about it, and together let’s open our heart and our hands and shed the love of God abroad.

Posted in Anna Wood, Authentic Christianity, domestic abuse

A woman comes to you and says she’s been abused–what do you do?

A woman comes to you. She says she’s been abused. You look at her face. It’s evident that she’s stressed. Something is going on but you don’t know what. You ask her a few questions. She looks down, avoids eye contact. Her answers are all over the place. She’s obviously distressed. Is she lying? You don’t really have the time to try to find out. You tell her to go home, repent, try harder, pray more. Do more to be a better wife, to try to make her husband happy. “If it doesn’t get better, let me know.” Patting yourself on the back, you relegate it to the back of your mind. “Thank you, Lord, that I was able to be there for her.”

A woman comes to you. She says she’s been abused. You tell her you know her husband. He’s a good man, a gentle man, a kind and loving man. There’s no way he could do the things she says he’s done. “I know him. He’s never do the things you are accusing him of.” She tries to explain but nothing she says meshes with what you are sure you know. “I’ll pray for you but the ball is really in your court. If you want a better marriage, you have to work for a better marriage. You must have done something to make him unhappy.” You send her home but just for good measure, you call up her husband. “Your wife came in here telling me things that I knew couldn’t be true. I just thought you’d want to know.” He gives you a sob story about how unbalanced she is, how hard he tries and how little she appreciates his efforts. “I try everything in my power but it just never gets any better.” After promising to pray for him so that he’ll know how to help his wife, you hang up the phone. “Thank you, Lord, for letting me be here to pray for him and even for her. It must be so hard having a wife like that.”

A woman comes to you. She tells you that there isn’t enough money for food, not enough money for the doctor, not enough money for the power or the mortgage. “Our children need so much but my husband spends the money on other things. I don’t even know where it all goes. It’s always like this, and I don’t know what to do.” You look at her clothes. She’s well dressed. You look at her car. It’s top of the line. You know where she lives; the neighborhood is nice, upscale. She sees your doubt. “That car,” she says, “he insisted that he had to have that for business….” Looking back at her you tell her, “I know where you live. Your house is expensive. Your car is, too. Obviously your husband makes enough money. You just need to manage it better. Sell the car, get something nice but much cheaper. Cut out other luxuries. Move to a cheaper place. There’s a lot you can do to make things better. Maybe get into financial counseling. You need to learn to spend money on what’s important. Work with your husband, not against him. We can’t help you.” She tries once again to explain how broke they really are but, really, there’s no explanation necessary. The truth is so obvious. You send her away, shaking your head as you do. As you sit down to dinner that night, you once again think about her story. Then you pray, “Teach us to be grateful for what we’ve been given, for the bounty set before us, and help us to always be ready to share with those in need.” Thankful that you don’t know anyone who is really in need, you start to eat.

A woman comes to you…. What do you do?

Posted in Christianity, domestic abuse

Does God hate domestic abuse?

How many sermons have you heard on domestic abuse? According to a Life Way survey, 42% of Protestant pastors rarely or never preach against domestic abuse. Yet one in four women will experience domestic abuse in some form in her lifetime. Some of these abused women are our sisters in Christ.

Think about this:

  • More than 10 million people, both women and men, are victims of domestic abuse in any given year.
  • Men account for nearly 3,000,000 cases of domestic assault each year.
  • Every nine seconds a woman in the USA is beaten or assaulted.
  • Women between the ages of 18 to 34 are at greatest risk of being abused by their partners.
  • One in three female victims of homicide are killed…

Source: Does God hate domestic abuse?