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A new blog, a new direction

Hey y’all, This is Anna. I’ve been blogging on The Cross Is All We Need since 2009. Over time, my direction as a blogger and a writer has changed. These last several years have been extremely difficult for myself and my family. We’ve been living in the fiery furnace for some time now. But God, in His mercy and grace, has been right there alongside us. The more we’ve suffered, the more we’ve learned dependence upon Him. Even in allowing us to hurt and to struggle, the Lord is good.

I find that my purpose as a blogger has changed over time. I’ve not done much with The Cross Is All We Need for some time now. I’ve had neither the time, the energy, nor even the passion for it. I felt as if I’d lost my direction with this particular blog (which was started a blog about Christianity lived out). These days, I find myself more and more drawn to writing particularly for women about holiness, godliness, and righteousness, and to addressing the problems of domestic abuse among Christians. To this end, I am mostly shutting down The Cross Is All We Need. It will remain up, but it won’t be updated frequently. If I find someone else’s article that speaks to me, I might post it here but likely I won’t be posting my own new articles. However, my days as a blogger are far from over. In fact, I am more excited about blogging than I have been in a long, long time.

You likely already know that I blog about domestic abuse at Tamar Weeps . But here’s what you likely don’t know: My daughter Tatiana (who is a truly godly young woman and a good writer in her own right) and I have started a new blog on godly womanhood. Because we’re reformed in our faith, we named it Femina Sola Gratia. Instead of just trying to explain it to y’all, I thought I’d simply publish the about page. Hope to see you over there.

You can find it here:


Femina Sola Gratia

Femina…woman, feminine, womanly

Sola…only, alone


A woman by grace alone

What does it mean to be a godly woman? Or a woman under grace? What does God want from us today? Why does Jesus matter? Is there really a difference between men and women? And does it really matter if there is? How does what I want, or what society says, play into my life? Does God’s Word really tell us what He expects of us? What about when life is hard–really hard–what then? Does what the Lord demands change to fit the circumstances? Or the millennium?

My name is Anna. I and my daughter, Tatiana, are blessed to share part of our lives, and our faith in the Lord, with you. We’re not here as experts but as pilgrims searching for a City which we will one day call Home. God’s grace has been manifest in our lives so many times and in so many ways. Our lives have been wracked by difficulties, and time and again we’ve found ourselves with no place to go to but to the Lord. We’re here to honor Him, and to seek to bring Him glory through what we write.

Our passion is to write for women, both younger and older, who desire to serve the Lord and to know Him, and for those women who might find themselves struggling with feeling outside of the camp due to some overwhelming difficulty in their lives such as domestic abuse, illness, poverty, wayward children, and so on. Having walked the difficult pathways of pain ourselves, we are familiar with some of their struggles and will seek to come alongside them as fellow believers.

Godly womanhood is under fire today, sometimes even from within the church as both legalists and those who embrace free grace theology (also known as“easy believism” or antinomianism) attack, deny or expand upon what the Lord has commanded from His people. God’s Word is the only basis for truth that there is. Though the mountains fade away, and people live and die, His Word stands. It is His Word and His alone that we will base our lives and our writing on.

Our goal is to honor Christ in everything and, through that, to be a blessing to you.


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My new book on domestic abuse is on sale

Do you ever wonder if you might be a victim of domestic abuse? My new Kindle book, Am I Being Abused? A Woman’s Guide to Domestic Abuse, can help you to answer that question. It’s on sale through Sunday. If you get a copy and like it, please leave a review so others will know that it’s worth reading. Thanks!



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Am I Being Abused? Kindle book is finally, truly, ready! yea!

I got my first book up on Kindle officially a little over a month ago. I wrote it, edited it, put it up, and was seriously unhappy with the way it looked. So I worked on it. Again and again and again.

In the meantime, my husband–our abuser–was fired yet again from his job. He lasted in this one six years. Before that, he was unemployed for two years. Before that, he was fired from four separate jobs over a period of four years. And even more before those.

He’s been seriously grumpy. Depressed. Angry. Frustrated. It’s affecting everything.

I’ve been really sick this past month. I have a bunch of chronic health issues, and with all the stress they reared their ugly head big time. But the Lord is good, and He was with me all the time. Helping me. Guiding me. Protecting all of us.

So now, finally, after every single thing, my new Kindle book is finally looking the way I want it to look. And I’ve learned a few things (or a few dozen) about getting kindle books up and ready. The name of it is Am I Being Abused? A Woman’s Guide to Domestic Abuse.

I’m having a promotion starting next Sunday. The price will drop to 99 cents, and work its way back up from there to its normal price of $3.99.

Here’s the Amazon description of my book and a look at the table of contents:

Written by a domestic abuse survivor and the co-author of A Cry for Justice: How the Evil of Domestic Abuse Hides in Your Church, this new book helps women navigate the difficult question: Am I being abused?

If the thought has crossed your mind that you might be a victim of domestic abuse, the most important question that you can ask yourself is: Am I afraid of my husband? If fear defines your relationship, something is seriously wrong. There is a world of difference in an unhappy marriage and an abusive marriage. As you read through this book, you’ll develop the tools necessary to tell the difference.
In this book, you’ll learn…

~How to tell if you are a victim of domestic abuse
~How to tell the difference between true and false repentance
~What you need to do if you are in an abusive relationship
~How to identify your God-given rights

With lists, questions, recommendations, and guidelines Am I Being Abused? A Christian Woman’s Guide to Domestic Abuse offers the reader a way through the valley of abuse and into hope and healing.

A message to my readers



Chapter 1 Confused, mixed up, brokenhearted feelings

Chapter 2 Am I being abused?

Chapter 3 Delving deeper

Chapter 4 He said he was sorry: true vs. false repentance

Chapter 5 Our God-given rights

Chapter 6 Practical matters

Chapter 7 Things that have been a blessing to me

Is divorce permissible in cases of domestic abuse?

Am I saved?

About the author


If you’ve got any questions about it (or about abuse in general), or if you just want to share your story, leave a comment on here or message me at

Hope to hear from you.

Soli Deo Gloria!


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Husband lost his job

Psalms 86: 7, In the day of my trouble I call upon you, for you answer me. 

This morning my husband was fired. It didn’t really come as a surprise as they’ve been threatening to fire him for months, but it’s certainly not welcome news. We’re already under threat of eviction due to being behind on the rent. Now, this.

If you know any of our story, you know that my husband has been abusive towards us. We’ve not in physical danger from him (though he has been physically abusive before), but his verbal, emotional, spiritual, and financial abuse is relentless.  This is not the first time he’s been fired. During our marriage, he’s been fired five or six times, and he was fired other times before I met him. His’ health isn’t good, neither is his emotional state, and I’m honestly not sure what this will do to him.

God is certainly sovereign and I trust Him. He has been and certainly will continue to provide for our needs. Even in the darkest of nights, He’s been there. Never have my children and I failed to know He was fighting our battles.  Our trust in Him is not only unshakable but has increased throughout our many trials.

Some friends of mine had suggested a few days ago that I start a GoFundMe to help raise money for the landlord, and I did. That has helped some. We set the goal for $3,000.00 and have raised a little over a thousand. My daughter, on her own, had started one, trying to raise money to leave my husband due to his abuse. Hers simply never took off. I really don’t know how things are going to go now, or even what our options might be, considering. I’m not asking anyone for help but if you could pray for us, I would appreciate it.

My husband is head over heels in debt and that makes this that much harder. He filed bankruptcy just a year or so ago (for the third time) and his credit is shot. Unwisely, he had taken out two title loans, multiple payday loans, and various loans from family and friends.  He’s behind on not only the rent but also on the utilities and other bills. Our landlord wants us out and has filed eviction papers. And now my husband has lost his job. God alone can help us.

Thank you all, and God bless.

To God be the glory, now and forever, in this as in all things.


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Called To Serve (Guinness) — The Reformed Reader

I like this book so much: The Call by Os Guinness. Here’s a section I found this morning while re-reading part of the book. It has to do with God’s call and gifts: “In the biblical understanding of giftedness, gifts are never really ours for ourselves. We have nothing that was not given us. Our […]

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Theological Systems Compared

TIME in the Word Ministries

Dispensationalism – Progressive Dispensationalism
Covenant Theology – New Covenant Theology

DISP – Dispensationalism
PD – Progressive Dispensationalism
CT – Covenant Theology
NCT – New Covenant Theology

Definition of Terms:
Physical Israel – physical descendants of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob
Spiritual Israel – the elect of God, all those in Christ, whether Jew or Gentile
Universal Church – all the elect of God from all time
Visible Church – a local assembly of baptized believers in Christ, joined by covenant for worship and fellowship

(These statements are generally true of those who hold to a specific system of theology, however this list is not to be considered comprehensive. Some of this material has been compiled from several resources available online and some of it is original work resulting from the study of these issues by Phillip M. Way.)

1. Stance regarding the Doctrines of Grace

DISP – Usually not Calvinistic

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What is the “Analogy of Faith”?

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My good friend Steve Owen wrote in answer to this question:

The Analogy of Faith is a Scriptural concept revived at the Reformation. The expression is derived from Romans 12:6 (‘kata tes analogian tes pistews’- according to the analogy of the faith). According to this principle, the Scriptures can never contradict themselves, so the exegete should study all relevant biblical passages on any one topic to avoid contradictions and achieve harmony.

Simply put – the Bible does not ever contradict itself. Therefore we must study through it to be sure we are not applying a text in a way that runs contrary to what the rest of the Bible says. We use Scripture to interpret Scripture. If a portion of Scripture is not clear, then we use other Scriptures to help us understand. As our Confession of Faith confirms:

The infallible rule for the interpretation of Scripture is the…

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