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A Call To Godly Men

A few months back, in response to my article “The Christian Life Is Like…a Box Of Chocolates?” I received the following reply. It touched me and I contacted the gentleman (whom I only know as Al) and asked permission to quote him. It was graciously granted.

“Perhaps (judging by the described table conversation) the ladies got what they expected, which would be very sad. But the root problem lies not with the ladies themselves, but with the men of the church of our Lord Jesus Christ, who both teach and display the example of faithful living for all the people of God. Generally speaking, when professing Christian men congregate in a manner similar to that Anna describes, they talk is sports, cars, careers, kids in college, etc. Ministry in such gatherings is weak at best and too often farcical. Men who ought to be leading their homes in discipleship have settled for regarding the church as a social club.

Now this abdication by men shouldn’t keep women from being godly, but without God-ordained leadership from husbands and fathers women aren’t rightly instructed in godliness.

We men look to the leaders of the church for our living examples of Christian thought, speech and behavior. Sadly, there is scarcely anything exemplary to be found in todays pulpits– not none, but far too little. We have the Scriptures of course, and the biographies and writings of men of God through church history, but few alive today are instructing us in what and how to read and study.

We need preachers and teachers who so trust God for their livelihoods that they are unafraid to call sin by its name and to instruct, exhort and admonish the faithful, without concern for loss of attendance numbers or income. The “church building fund” should be comprised of Scriptures, not dollars, for the church is made up of God’s children, not of construction materials.”

Men of God, it is time to bow down to pray and then rise up to lead God’s people in the ways of godliness. We have been without an abundance of godly leadership for so long. Much of what has poured forth from our pulpits and from our homes has been a strange mix of feminism and paganistic self-help and has lead us on the pathways of death. You only lead well when you lead from your knees.

Whether in the pulpit or at home, your sisters in Christ need you to take a stand for the Truth of God’s Word. We need to hear it boldly proclaimed. Teach us that God takes His holiness serious; help us to do the same. Be an example of pious living. Teach us to be faithful to our Lord so that we might hate sin. Show us how to pray continuously. Help us to love God’s holy Word and to rightly divide it by comparing Scripture with Scripture. Reintroduce expository preaching. Let us know that each verse of Scripture has a meaning; help us to find it and understand it. Remind us that when we get away from the Word of God, we get away from God Himself.

We need to hear that you care about being the husbands and fathers God has commanded you to be. Our young men need a guide; it can be you. Teach them to be men of God, to be gentlemen, to be leaders of God’s people. Teach them to take a stand for righteousness. Encourage the older men to do the same. Don’t be afraid to speak out just because no one else does so. Every movement of God had a beginning; let it start with you. Without you, we will continue to fail.

Satan has lied about womanhood and we have listened. We are listening no longer. We hear the Voice of our Shepherd and we are following. We need your prayers for us as we seek to become godly women and re-embrace the life that was meant to be ours. We need you to preach, to teach, to guide us in the area of biblical womanhood.The world that hates us for being what God has called us to be; we need to hear that our efforts at rediscovering femininity are appreciated. Teach about modesty and the sin of immodesty. Help our young women understand that outward modesty must flow from a heart of purity. Set limits in our churches, in your families and lovingly enforce them. Show us that virtuous womanhood means much to you and even more to God.

O brothers, we are counting on you. We cannot do this alone. We can take back our homes and our churches one man, one woman, one family at a time. Women can be the examples to their families and to other women but if we seek to take the leadership in their families or in the churches we will once more be sinning. The onus to lead is on you–the man of God. Please, I beg you, take it seriously.



Slave of Christ. Reformed Baptist. Mama of many blessings. Homemaker. Homeschooler. Author. Blogger. I write about practical Christian living, womanhood, and domestic violence awareness (with a few other topics thrown in). Passionate about Christ's glory, my children, homemaking, writing, the church, helping those in abusive situations, reading, and animals. Lover of good coffee.

6 thoughts on “A Call To Godly Men

  1. We need to hear it boldly proclaimed. Teach us that God takes His holiness serious; help us to do the same. Be an example of pious living. Teach us to be faithful to our Lord so that we might hate sin. Show us how to pray continuously. Help us to love God’s holy Word and to rightly divide it by comparing Scripture with Scripture

    Good post. And I clearly see your point concerning the lack of spiritual leadership in families and in churches. But in desiring to encourage men towards their Christian responsibilities…don’t forget who the Teacher is.

    Joh 14:26 But the Comforter, which is the Holy Ghost, whom the Father will send in my name, he shall teach you all things, and bring all things to your remembrance, whatsoever I have said unto you

    1co 2:12 Now we have received, not the spirit of the world, but the spirit which is of God; that we might know the things that are freely given to us of God.
    1co 2:13 Which things also we speak, not in the words which man’s wisdom teacheth, but which the Holy Ghost teacheth; comparing spiritual things with spiritual.

    1co 2:13 Which things also we speak, not in the words which man’s wisdom teacheth, but which the Holy Ghost teacheth; comparing spiritual things with spiritual.
    1co 2:14 But the natural man receiveth not the things of the Spirit of God: for they are foolishness unto him: neither can he know them, because they are spiritually discerned.

    Heb 5:12 For when for the time ye ought to be teachers, ye have need that one teach you again which be the first principles of the oracles of God; and are become such as have need of milk, and not of strong meat.
    Heb 5:13 For every one that useth milk is unskilful in the word of righteousness: for he is a babe.
    Heb 5:14 But strong meat belongeth to them that are of full age, even those who by reason of use have their senses exercised to discern both good and evil.

    Both TEACHING and LEARNING the things of God are SERIOUS business….God’s business. I fear our Christian traditions are too much like those of Ephesus…wonderful and busy…but without the ‘First Love.’

    Again, good post. Thought provoking. Thanks.

    Carolyn /

    1. Amen…the Teacher is the Spirit of God. We need more men who know Him so well that they respond to His slightest nudge. In order to know Him in this way, they must know the Word which He inspired.

      Women aren’t off the hook in this…we, too, need to know the Spirit as Teacher in this way.

      Thank you for your comments and especially for the Scripture you included. God bless.

  2. Anna;

    I believe both you and your respondent are right in your divisions; yet I suggest the scripture does justify the many committed and God-fearing women in a continued prophetic role, motivated by love for God and therein for mankind.

    As Paul explains, the body of the Church comprises many of different gifts and roles, some which are visually prominent and others which are spiritually prominent. A priest in his administration of the sacraments and reading of the homily is visually prominent, yet it is often the case that those who soundly teach scripture to children (even if in a room apart) contribute more to the knowledge of the word in the congregation as those children become adults.

    Likewise, those who provide with their lives an example of Christian living, humility, the demonstration of love and charity, and a deep concern for God provide for their families and companions that most essential environment within which hearts become softened and ears become opened to hearing the word.

    It’s perhaps misleading then when we fall into the modern trap of saying that the scriptural roles of men and women are making women second-class; for it is not that at all but rather making each first-class in their own role within the body of Christ. If one deserts the important role given by God then it leaves that role undone or lacking; no one part is so much more important than another that the latter should be abandoned to strengthen the former.

    Thank you for your continued prophetic message to the Church, the same which I will pray many hear and to which through the grace of God they might respond.

  3. Vincent, thank you so much for your thoughtful reply. I enjoy reading your comments very much. I especially liked this part, “It’s perhaps misleading then when we fall into the modern trap of saying that the scriptural roles of men and women are making women second-class; for it is not that at all but rather making each first-class in their own role within the body of Christ. If one deserts the important role given by God then it leaves that role undone or lacking; no one part is so much more important than another that the latter should be abandoned to strengthen the former.” It is my heartfelt wish that more people, both men and women, would realize the high priviledge given to them by God to fulfill a role set apart for them that came straight from the mind of Almighty God; and that, understanding it, that more would embrace it. We need teachers, preachers of the Word who are faithful to proclaim it and moms and dads who tirelessly teach it. May God grant this as we seek Him and His ways. God bless you.

  4. scriptures do not differentiate between male and female when it comes to participating in the Gospel…receiving gifts of the Spirit…and so forth. They, as are men, suppose to fill their roles, whatever those roles be, in a Godly fashion. Whether as married or single..parent or not parent…and so forth. All people of God are to be modest, appropriate, Godly, and are to ‘live’ the gospel to the glory of God.

    Ga 3:28 There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither bond nor free, there is neither male nor female: for ye are all one in Christ Jesus.

    Php 4:3 And I intreat thee also, true yokefellow, help those women which laboured with me in the gospel, with Clement also, and with other my fellowlabourers, whose names are in the book of life.

    Ac 1:14 These all continued with one accord in prayer and supplication, with the women, and Mary the mother of Jesus, and with his brethren.

    Ac 5:14 And believers were the more added to the Lord, multitudes both of men and women.)

    Ac 8:12 But when they believed Philip preaching the things concerning the kingdom of God, and the name of Jesus Christ, they were baptized, both men and women

    Ac 8:3 As for Saul, he made havock of the church, entering into every house, and haling men and women committed them to prison.

    Ac 9:2 And desired of him letters to Damascus to the synagogues, that if he found any of this way, whether they were men or women, he might bring them bound unto Jerusalem.

    Ac 16:13 And on the sabbath we went out of the city by a river side, where prayer was wont to be made; and we sat down, and spake unto the women which resorted thither.

    Ac 16:14 And a certain woman named Lydia, a seller of purple, of the city of Thyatira, which worshipped God, heard us: whose heart the Lord opened, that she attended unto the things which were spoken of Paul.

    Ac 16:15 And when she was baptized, and her household, she besought us, saying, If ye have judged me to be faithful to the Lord, come into my house, and abide there. And she constrained us.

    Ac 17:4 And some of them believed, and consorted with Paul and Silas; and of the devout Greeks a great multitude, and of the chief women not a few

    Ac 17:12 Therefore many of them believed; also of honourable women which were Greeks, and of men, not a few

    Ac 22:4 And I persecuted this way unto the death, binding and delivering into prisons both men and women.

    Good post. Interesting.

    Carlyn /

    1. Both men and women are called to fully obey, fully suffer for, fully fulfill the Gospel call on their lives. Jesus died for the sin of women just as much as He died for the sin of men. This, however, does not infer that there are no differences between the God-given roles of men and women. For 1900 years (give or take a bit), the church understood the roles of men and women were to be different. Because the church understood it, the world also understood it.

      I am not inferior to a man in any way simply because I am a woman. It is a glorious responsiblity to be a wife, mother and teacher of the future generation. I am priviledged not to have to go out and enter the work force but to be awarded the joy of watching my children grow and train them for the Lord. In the same way, a woman of God is in no way inferor to a man of God. Her role is different, yes, because God made her different, because she was created second, because it was Eve who enticed Adam to sin. A woman’s role in the church is supportive rather than administrative. Her role is to teach the children and the women. Her role is to pray, to learn, to grow. Am I reduced because I cannot preach from the pulpit? No, in no way. I am protected, in fact, from the chance of possibly teaching falsehood. The job of preaching is a job like no other: those who preach are daring to represent God. They had best be sure that they have been called to do so and that they are fully obedient to Him in all ways. Women are not called to preach but they are called to fully obey.

      We are all called to live the gospel to the glory of God, to be modest, to obey…in order to do that, we need to once again find, understand and appropriately live the God-given roles of man and woman. Then and then only are we in His will.

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